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When Losing Weight Changes Your Relationship

by Karen Brooks on December 5, 2009

Losing weight feels great when you’re doing well. It’s especially exciting when you have been significantly overweight for a long time and through your own hard work and perseverance, you are noticing the great results of your dedicated lifestyle change. But what if your partner is still struggling with unhealthy eating patterns? This can make things difficult on the home front.

Many clients who come to see me fear that losing weight will change the dynamics of a close relationship. Whether it’s with a partner, a sibling or another family member, many people are afraid of changing the status quo; this translates to one of the most common subconscious pay-offs for self-sabotage: ‘If I lose weight it will change the dynamics of my relationship. Therefore, I will subconsciously sabotage myself so that I stay overweight’.

There are many ways that a relationship can be affected by one person losing weight. Let’s use an example; If both you and your partner are overweight and you alone decide to do something about it, then this may leave your partner feeling very vulnerable. He or she may not be ready to make the commitment to a lifestyle change yet. You, on the other hand, may develop different interests and hobbies based around your new healthier lifestyle that leave your partner feeling left behind.

Mealtimes will change. You will probably be eating separate meals at separate times. While he or she is lying on the couch watching television, you may be out at the gym working out, mixing with new people and making new friends. Typically when we lose weight, our self-esteem improves. Seeing the new, confident slimmer you may leave your partner feeling quite unsteady. He or she may act out this vulnerability in a number of ways; by expressing resentment at your new hobbies and physical activities, and maybe by shutting down emotionally.

When one person in the relationship begins to lose weight, look and feel much younger and fitter and generally feel more motivated all round, this can sometimes leave the other partner feeling left behind. They may already be feeling depressed and disempowered, and your success may exacerbate those feelings. My client ‘Janine’ experienced this problem with her husband. As she began to lose weight and get a new lease on life, he became increasingly sullen and resentful. Fortunately, they talked it through and she discovered that her husband had noticed the attention ‘Janine’ was getting from other men as she began to take better care of her appearance.

He could see that she was becoming more attractive and confident in herself, and he started to think: ‘what if she leaves me?’ ‘Janine’ re-assured her husband and eventually convinced him to accompany her to the gym. He is now on his own path of renewed health and their relationship is stronger than ever. ‘Janine’ was very glad that rather than mirroring her husband’s initial defensive behaviour, she was able to get him to open up and explain how he was feeling. Communication is the key.

So what do you do if you are afraid that losing weight may change the dynamics of your significant relationship? Do you stay the way you are to avoid rocking the boat? Well you could do that; but that would only leave you feeling disempowered and resentful. Instead, you could make efforts to include your partner. Try out some healthy low fat recipes and invite him to join you. Discuss the economic advantage of eating home cooked meals rather that getting takeaway. Invite him to come to the gym with you.

‘Jason’ lived with a wife who loved to cook for him. When he started to take care of his body and lose weight, he no longer wanted the lavish meals she used to prepare every night, since they were loaded with calories. His wife felt upset and anxious because she believed she was no longer needed. Cooking his meals was her way of looking after him and showing him that she loved him.

I suggested that she and ‘Jason’ attend healthy cooking classes together in order to learn how to prepare healthy low fat meals. Not only have they found something new to do together, ‘Jason’ and his wife are now both losing weight and feeling fantastic. His weight loss journey has brought them even closer together.

There are lots of ways to communicate with your partner and help them to feel included. We are often heavily influenced by the behaviour of our close family and friends, so your good habits will probably rub off onto others around you. Everybody wins! Whatever you do, don’t let the fear of your relationship changing stop you from pursuing your weight loss goals. Your relationships can change for the better and you will add several years of life expectancy as a result of your commitment to health and longevity.

About the Author
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Sonia Devine is one of Australia’s leading experts in weight loss hypnotherapy. Want to learn more about how to achieve permanent weight loss? Claim your FREE Weight Loss E-book here => http://loveyourselfslim.com.au/free_stuff

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Nutritional Diet Vitamin Supplements

by Karen Brooks on September 30, 2009

While it is important to maintain a healthy weight, most people have trouble staying healthy on a weight-loss diet. Often, important nutrients such as iron, protein, and vitamins are left out along with other foods, making us more vulnerable to disease. To make up for lost nutrients, there are several nutritional diet vitamin supplements available.

These supplements provide the recommended dose of vitamins and minerals while avoiding weight-related problems such as diabetes, osteoarthritis, and heart disease. However, it is equally important to choose the right supplement to fit one’s diet and lifestyle. Here are some tips for choosing the right nutritional diet vitamin supplements.

1. Go herbal.

Herbal supplements are made of organic ingredients, which the body can break down more easily than synthetic nutrients. This makes them a great choice for people with allergies or weak immune systems, since the body reacts more naturally to organic substances. An even better option is to back up your current nutritional diet vitamin supplements with actual herbs – not only will they boost your nutritional intake, they are also easier to digest in their natural form. Some recommended herbs are green tea, spirulina, and garcina cambogia.

2. Read the labels.

Read the labels carefully and make sure the active ingredients, if any, are safe and natural. Look out for ingredients that may aggravate existing health conditions or trigger allergic reactions. As much as possible, stick to natural ingredients with little to no synthetic content. Beware of some cheap nutritional diet vitamin supplements that are falsely marketed as “herbal” but are actually more pharmaceutic.

3. Exercise and eat right.

Remember, nutritional diet vitamin supplements are meant to supplement your weight-loss diet, not to actually slim you down. Proper diet and exercise are still the key factors to staying at a healthy weight. Limit your intake of sweets, red meat, and other high-calorie foods, and load up on fruits and vegetables. Engage in regular physical activity such as sports, running, or walking.

Additional reminders

The US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has weak regulations on nutritional diet vitamin supplements. While government approval is a big plus, it is still up to the consumer to choose the right health products.

Before buying, consult your doctor to find out whether weight-loss supplements are good for you, and have them recommend the best type and brand for your specific needs. Be sure to mention medical conditions that may affect required medications, such as diabetes, heat problems, and allergies.

Some supplements contain additives that can be harmful to your health. To avoid these additives, make sure that the manufacturer you are buying from is pharmaceutical GMP compliant.

The product we personally use called Total Balance – http://www.health-product-we-use.com is the most natural and effective supplement we have come across. We have been using this product for over 3 years with excellent health results.

We highly reccomend you learn more about our best natural nutritional supplement if you are interested in improving your overall health.

About the Author

Jean Helmet runs a series of health websites, We offer a free health book for subscribers to our websites newsletter. We cover everything you need to know on nutrition and how to improve your general overall health. Check out our nutrition e-book, for more information on nutrition and the products we use.

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